We've all heard it: "It's a woman's prerogative to change her mind!". "It's a woman's prerogative to ...." You can fill in the blank yourself. Whether it's changing her mind with no reason, getting mad with no reason, it doesn't matter. Any time a woman does something contradictory to her words, or does something with absolutely no rationale at all, she claims it's her prerogative to do so.
Merriam-Webster defines a prerogative as "an exclusive right, power or privilege". In this age of demands for equal rights and equal treatment, trying to claim a special right is not permissable. Just this morning I saw a status on Facebook: "We're women. We might not know what we want and we might not say what we want, but we reserve the right to be pissed off if we don't get it" (sic). Does this sound like equal rights to you?
Please don't misunderstand me. I firmly believe in equality. I see no reason men and women shouldn't be treated equally. If a woman does the same job as a man, she should be compensated just as equally. In the same vein, it doesn't matter to me what your nationality or skin color is. If you do the same job just as well as anyone else, you should be compensated equally. It is only right.
I don't believe, however, you should receive special consideration based solely on gender, race, religion, etc. Therefore, why would a woman be allowed to reserve the right to get whatever she wants with no regards to anyone but her own feelings? I realize, not all women are this way. I'm not saying they are. Not all men are shallow insensitive jerks, either. Please don't hammer me with complaints about stereotyping.
As I see it, we should all have the same considerations. If you want to change your mind at the last second, please provide a reason, even if this reason is "I had a feeling...." This would make more sense than "It's my right to do so." If you're wanting something, please spell it out. Not everyone is good at subtlety. This goes for women, men, black, white, tan, I don't care. The United States Declaration of Independence clearly states "all men are created equal." This has since been expanded to include women. We are all equally created and as such, deserve to be treated equally. If you don't get a job, don't claim it's because of your race or gender. Consider the possibility that maybe you just weren't the most qualified.
I know, I can hear people saying "But that's not the way it really is." I know. I know. I know. I know. I still say that's how it SHOULD be. In some cases, that's how it IS. Equal rights, equal consideration. You want it, you have to be willing to give it. Don't just demand it.
Tuesday, February 16, 2010
Thursday, January 21, 2010
Believe In Yourself
"If you really do put a small value upon yourself, rest assured that the world will not raise your price." I found this anonymous quote this morning, and it really struck a chord. So many times we go through life hunched over, not wanting to look the world in the eye. We want to shrink away from attention, just go about our business and be invisible. Does this sound like you?
It's difficult to stand up and face life head-on. For some people, it's almost impossible. Our sense of self-value can be lower than the value of the dollar. Do you feel that way? When you look at yourself, do you see someone that is worth something, or do you see someone that would make even George Bailey feel better about himself?
We need to stop thinking this way. Everyone has worth. Another phrase I've heard is "You may be nothing to everybody, but to somebody, you're everything." Even if you don't realize it, someone is watching you and learning from you. You are the world to someone.
A great example of this is Susan Boyle. Looking nothing like the typical contestant, this plain looking woman signed up for Britain's Got Talent. She walked out on stage, and the initial reaction from the judges and audience was scorn. How could this plain woman even THINK she has talent? Susan was nervous. Facing an audience of scowling faces, who wouldn't be? Yet this woman had the courage, the self-confidence to open her mouth and sing. Sing she did, indeed! Susan Boyle is now an international sensation simply because she believed in herself enough to face the world (quite literally!) and show what she has.
Isn't it time for you to take another look in the mirror and decide what it is you have to offer? Even if you personally don't see anything to be proud of, consider this: You are unique. You are the only person exactly like you. Even identical twins have SOME differences. You need to be proud of the fact that you are YOU. Be yourself. Ted Geisel said it best: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Susan Boyle did it. How can we do any less?
It's difficult to stand up and face life head-on. For some people, it's almost impossible. Our sense of self-value can be lower than the value of the dollar. Do you feel that way? When you look at yourself, do you see someone that is worth something, or do you see someone that would make even George Bailey feel better about himself?
We need to stop thinking this way. Everyone has worth. Another phrase I've heard is "You may be nothing to everybody, but to somebody, you're everything." Even if you don't realize it, someone is watching you and learning from you. You are the world to someone.
A great example of this is Susan Boyle. Looking nothing like the typical contestant, this plain looking woman signed up for Britain's Got Talent. She walked out on stage, and the initial reaction from the judges and audience was scorn. How could this plain woman even THINK she has talent? Susan was nervous. Facing an audience of scowling faces, who wouldn't be? Yet this woman had the courage, the self-confidence to open her mouth and sing. Sing she did, indeed! Susan Boyle is now an international sensation simply because she believed in herself enough to face the world (quite literally!) and show what she has.
Isn't it time for you to take another look in the mirror and decide what it is you have to offer? Even if you personally don't see anything to be proud of, consider this: You are unique. You are the only person exactly like you. Even identical twins have SOME differences. You need to be proud of the fact that you are YOU. Be yourself. Ted Geisel said it best: "Be who you are and say what you feel because those who mind don't matter and those who matter don't mind."
Susan Boyle did it. How can we do any less?
Wednesday, January 20, 2010
The Bullying Stops Here
Bullying. Harassment. Schools are supposed to be safe zones for our children. The problem is, anyone with children should be able to tell you this isn't true. School can be one of the worst places for children.
Anti-bullying campaigns are very popular now. Posters and t-shirts are everywhere, claiming no tolerance for picking on people. Most of the time, it's the students wearing the shirts and posting the signs that are doing the harassing. If you're not the same color, or not the same size, or just not popular enough, you're considered fair game.
Sadly, school faculty isn't equipped to handle this. Teachers can do little more than talk to the students. Of course, those involved deny doing anything wrong, even in the face of evidence and witnesses. These kids know their parents aren't going to do anything about it.
My own sons have been bullied for years. One son has even had rocks thrown at him by other kids, simply for walking down the street. When I confronted the parents of the kids involved, the only concern the mother had was that her own son had cut his own hair. She didn't care at all about the fact her son had hit my son with rocks.
Another popular method of harassment is cyber bullying. With the predominance of social web sites, it's easier than ever to pick on someone without once having to look them in the eye. I've seen kids set up fake profiles and chat up kids to get them to confide secrets, only to take these secrets and spread them around the school. We've all seen on the news of the mother that created a fake profile to harass her own daughter's competition.
Where do our children learn how to treat others? Anyone that didn't say "Home", you really need to think again. Home is where it all starts. Consider how YOU treat other people. Do you mock people, bully people, push your way through lines and intimidate? Do you simply make fun of people in the privacy of your own home? Your children see all this. They learn how to do things by watching how YOU do things.
When we teach our children bad behavior, they follow the example. When we teach our children good behavior, they follow the example. If we can't learn to appreciate other people for who they are, how can we expect our children to do so?
Now, I'm sure some of you are asking yourselves how this pertains to you. After all, YOUR children are good and would NEVER pick on someone. Right? Guess again. We are not perfect. Our children are not perfect. Mistakes will happen. We need to teach our children right from wrong, and lead by example.
I know we've all heard of Columbine. Many schools around the country have had similar cases of students coming in with guns and causing havoc. What often gets overlooked is the fact that most of the students that do this have been bullied by classmates, and when they reach out for help nothing is done. Maybe the bully is the star athlete, or the rich kid, it doesn't matter. Nothing gets done. Finally these students can't take it any more and react in the only way they see left open to them.
Before anyone complains about this, let me state here: Not all students that have done this have been bullied. And not all star athletes or rich kids are bullies.
Bullying is a Hate Crime. It needs to be treated as such. Hate needs to be removed from our children, from our schools, from our lives. It begins, and it ends, at home. Let there be peace on Earth, and let it begin with YOU.
Anti-bullying campaigns are very popular now. Posters and t-shirts are everywhere, claiming no tolerance for picking on people. Most of the time, it's the students wearing the shirts and posting the signs that are doing the harassing. If you're not the same color, or not the same size, or just not popular enough, you're considered fair game.
Sadly, school faculty isn't equipped to handle this. Teachers can do little more than talk to the students. Of course, those involved deny doing anything wrong, even in the face of evidence and witnesses. These kids know their parents aren't going to do anything about it.
My own sons have been bullied for years. One son has even had rocks thrown at him by other kids, simply for walking down the street. When I confronted the parents of the kids involved, the only concern the mother had was that her own son had cut his own hair. She didn't care at all about the fact her son had hit my son with rocks.
Another popular method of harassment is cyber bullying. With the predominance of social web sites, it's easier than ever to pick on someone without once having to look them in the eye. I've seen kids set up fake profiles and chat up kids to get them to confide secrets, only to take these secrets and spread them around the school. We've all seen on the news of the mother that created a fake profile to harass her own daughter's competition.
Where do our children learn how to treat others? Anyone that didn't say "Home", you really need to think again. Home is where it all starts. Consider how YOU treat other people. Do you mock people, bully people, push your way through lines and intimidate? Do you simply make fun of people in the privacy of your own home? Your children see all this. They learn how to do things by watching how YOU do things.
When we teach our children bad behavior, they follow the example. When we teach our children good behavior, they follow the example. If we can't learn to appreciate other people for who they are, how can we expect our children to do so?
Now, I'm sure some of you are asking yourselves how this pertains to you. After all, YOUR children are good and would NEVER pick on someone. Right? Guess again. We are not perfect. Our children are not perfect. Mistakes will happen. We need to teach our children right from wrong, and lead by example.
I know we've all heard of Columbine. Many schools around the country have had similar cases of students coming in with guns and causing havoc. What often gets overlooked is the fact that most of the students that do this have been bullied by classmates, and when they reach out for help nothing is done. Maybe the bully is the star athlete, or the rich kid, it doesn't matter. Nothing gets done. Finally these students can't take it any more and react in the only way they see left open to them.
Before anyone complains about this, let me state here: Not all students that have done this have been bullied. And not all star athletes or rich kids are bullies.
Bullying is a Hate Crime. It needs to be treated as such. Hate needs to be removed from our children, from our schools, from our lives. It begins, and it ends, at home. Let there be peace on Earth, and let it begin with YOU.
Sunday, January 17, 2010
The Loss of Manners
There once was a time in this country, in this world, when people had manners. They might not have cared about their fellow earth dwellers, but for the most part people tried to get along.
In this modern time of ours, manners seem to have disappeared. Courtesy and decency are things of the past. People have become rude, self centered and inconsiderate. Road rage is no longer a major news story but a common occurrence. Shootings over who holds the television remote are becoming more frequent. Anger holds sway in the vast majority of households. Violence has gone from a last resort to the first reaction.
There's a book that, oddly enough, is a best seller. Most houses in America has a copy of it, as does a lot of the English speaking world. If asked, however, most people have never read it, or done more than skim through it. The name of this book is The Bible. In this book is a set of rules for living a good life, and a large number of people that I know personally claim to live by these rules. Sadly, too many of them can't live up to this claim.
One of these rules states something to the effect that you shouldn't tell lies. Sound familiar? Maybe you've heard "Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor"? Sounds easy enough, doesn't it? I can tell you, though, entirely too many people that show up to church every week and listen to sermon after sermon couldn't tell you more than half of these rules, and live by even less.
People, it's easy. You don't have to care what people think of you. It's really not that important. However, you should have some consideration for those around them. Being polite is a good start. Have some consideration for your fellow man or woman. Don't spread rumors. Remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Think about it this way: If you treat people the way you would have them treat you, they will treat you the same way. If everyone did this, if everyone treated others the way they wanted to be treated, this world would be a much better place.
In this modern time of ours, manners seem to have disappeared. Courtesy and decency are things of the past. People have become rude, self centered and inconsiderate. Road rage is no longer a major news story but a common occurrence. Shootings over who holds the television remote are becoming more frequent. Anger holds sway in the vast majority of households. Violence has gone from a last resort to the first reaction.
There's a book that, oddly enough, is a best seller. Most houses in America has a copy of it, as does a lot of the English speaking world. If asked, however, most people have never read it, or done more than skim through it. The name of this book is The Bible. In this book is a set of rules for living a good life, and a large number of people that I know personally claim to live by these rules. Sadly, too many of them can't live up to this claim.
One of these rules states something to the effect that you shouldn't tell lies. Sound familiar? Maybe you've heard "Thou shalt not bear false witness against thy neighbor"? Sounds easy enough, doesn't it? I can tell you, though, entirely too many people that show up to church every week and listen to sermon after sermon couldn't tell you more than half of these rules, and live by even less.
People, it's easy. You don't have to care what people think of you. It's really not that important. However, you should have some consideration for those around them. Being polite is a good start. Have some consideration for your fellow man or woman. Don't spread rumors. Remember the Golden Rule: Do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Treat people the way you would like to be treated.
Think about it this way: If you treat people the way you would have them treat you, they will treat you the same way. If everyone did this, if everyone treated others the way they wanted to be treated, this world would be a much better place.
Tuesday, December 8, 2009
The Dumbing Down of our Country
Every day I'm confronted with more examples of the "Dumbing Down" of America. Accidental misspellings, deliberate misspellings, text talk, Ebonics, you name it, examples are everywhere.
I've been trying to find reasons for this, so that I can teach my children to avoid it. Just like any other proud parent, I want my children to at least LOOK intelligent, if not actually BE intelligent. When they text someone, when they use instant messenger programs, my boys spell properly. They use grammar and punctuation properly. I feel it's the least I can do to help them get ahead.
Anyone that lives in Kansas is aware of the situation with KU head coach Mark Mangino. I'm not going to focus on any accusations against him. I don't follow college football, so that's not what I'm going to talk about. Instead, I'm looking at salaries. Coach Mangino was under contract to the tune of $1.5 million per year for training the football team. That's one and a half MILLION dollars each and every year just to train the football team. Other coaches receive even more. Meanwhile, police salaries in the same city are slightly less - around $65,000 per year. These people are charged with keeping the city safe, facing danger every day, and they make less than one tenth of the local college football coach.
It's this way all across the country. Teachers, police officers, public servants of all kinds, people from all walks of life are forced to live on less than $100,000 per year, or in a lot of places less than $50,000 or $30,000 per year. Yet sports entertainment people demand and receive hundreds of thousands, even millions of dollars every single year and then insist it isn't enough.
With the recent economical issues, school budgets are getting cut everywhere. I received a note from my son's high school letting me know we'll now be required to pay for any and all art supplies. Sports aren't being touched, but the arts are suffering. When budgets need to be cut, arts and education get cut before sports.
Rather than giving actors and athletes and coaches all this money, rather than pay a movie star $1 million to make a movie, I propose we swap salaries. Give the teachers and nurses and police this money, give it to the soldiers who defend our country. Give the athletes, coaches, entertainers minimum wage salaries.
As long as we honor these people who don't contribute to the bettering of our nation and our world, as long as we disrespect those who do contribute to society, as long as we don't provide adequate supplies to those who need it and instead give it to those who don't, our country and our world will continue to decline.
I've been trying to find reasons for this, so that I can teach my children to avoid it. Just like any other proud parent, I want my children to at least LOOK intelligent, if not actually BE intelligent. When they text someone, when they use instant messenger programs, my boys spell properly. They use grammar and punctuation properly. I feel it's the least I can do to help them get ahead.
Anyone that lives in Kansas is aware of the situation with KU head coach Mark Mangino. I'm not going to focus on any accusations against him. I don't follow college football, so that's not what I'm going to talk about. Instead, I'm looking at salaries. Coach Mangino was under contract to the tune of $1.5 million per year for training the football team. That's one and a half MILLION dollars each and every year just to train the football team. Other coaches receive even more. Meanwhile, police salaries in the same city are slightly less - around $65,000 per year. These people are charged with keeping the city safe, facing danger every day, and they make less than one tenth of the local college football coach.
It's this way all across the country. Teachers, police officers, public servants of all kinds, people from all walks of life are forced to live on less than $100,000 per year, or in a lot of places less than $50,000 or $30,000 per year. Yet sports entertainment people demand and receive hundreds of thousands, even millions of dollars every single year and then insist it isn't enough.
With the recent economical issues, school budgets are getting cut everywhere. I received a note from my son's high school letting me know we'll now be required to pay for any and all art supplies. Sports aren't being touched, but the arts are suffering. When budgets need to be cut, arts and education get cut before sports.
Rather than giving actors and athletes and coaches all this money, rather than pay a movie star $1 million to make a movie, I propose we swap salaries. Give the teachers and nurses and police this money, give it to the soldiers who defend our country. Give the athletes, coaches, entertainers minimum wage salaries.
As long as we honor these people who don't contribute to the bettering of our nation and our world, as long as we disrespect those who do contribute to society, as long as we don't provide adequate supplies to those who need it and instead give it to those who don't, our country and our world will continue to decline.
Thursday, December 3, 2009
Welcome!
Hello, and welcome to my new blog. I've started this to provide daily insights and ways that we can all do our best to get along and live happier. After all, isn't that what we all really want, to be happy?
So whether it's opposing viewpoints to negative ads, comments on a good deed I've seen, or just thoughts I've had to help us all out, this is the place to find it. Your comments are always welcome. I do ask that you try to keep it positive, though. I don't mind if you don't agree with me. That's normal. I love to discuss things. I don't want to argue, though. I won't delete comments unless they're downright rude. So please, read, comment, enjoy.
So whether it's opposing viewpoints to negative ads, comments on a good deed I've seen, or just thoughts I've had to help us all out, this is the place to find it. Your comments are always welcome. I do ask that you try to keep it positive, though. I don't mind if you don't agree with me. That's normal. I love to discuss things. I don't want to argue, though. I won't delete comments unless they're downright rude. So please, read, comment, enjoy.
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